Dreams..what do they mean…

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Dreaming is something we all do at some point of the night, and if we do remember our dream, it can be quite puzzling trying to understand if that flying doughnut really meant anything! Do dreams  reveal any truths about ourselves…Please read and let me know your thoughts

 

FALLING

Falling is often associated with losing control, but a slower drifting fall is more associated with letting go or maybe relief from some form of pressure.

DEATH

It sounds gloomy but more often than not it’s more directly related to dramatic change happening for the dreamer.  It could perhaps be the end of one thing, in order to make room for something new.  Alternatively it may be that the dreamer is subconsciously coming to terms with the grief and loss following the death of a friend or loved one.

BACK AT SCHOOL

This is very common. Those formative years made a great impact on our lives so it’s hardly surprising our dreams take us back to the classroom and the challenges we faced there. However it is thought that people dream more about their school days at times when they don’t feel prepared for a task or challenge. It can also underline our need to learn from the past and use our experience in the challenges we face.

NUDITY

It’s generally believed that vulnerability is expressed in dreams through nudity. However others believe it could reveal a deep-seated desire to be more daring and adventurous.

PARALYSIS

Dreaming about paralysis is believed to be caused by the overlap of REM and the moment of waking up.  This is because the body encounters a form of paralysis during dreaming, which prevents it from physically performing the actions that occur in the dream.

BEING CHASED

This is a very common feature of dreams.  Part of the reason it’s so common is because the anxiety we feel is so vivid, that we are more likely to remember it! Therefore it may not in fact be more common than dreaming about meditation!  Analysts believe that we don’t dream about being chased because we fear about being pursued, but rather that we fear what we’re running from (whether that be failure, embarrassment, exams or so on).

FLYING

Flying in a dream, and how effectively or poorly it’s done, relates to how much control we consider we have in our lives. Flying high is one of the most euphoric dreams imaginable, while flying low to the ground can be stressful and may indicate that you’re evaluating a risky or daring decision.

BEING LATE

Being late suggests you might be losing an opportunity to experience some sort of fulfilment in your life.  It may also imply that you need to deal with an indecisive trait which must be overcome and until you commit to a decision you will always find yourself hesitating and using your time ineffectively.

TEETH FALLING OUT

Dreaming of losing your teeth may mark a fear of getting old and or perhaps a fear of being unattractive to others.

A HOUSE

Houses are believed to represent the dreamer’s mind. Different rooms may relate to different character aspects of the individual dreamer.

 

 

 

How to get a good night’s sleep

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What are the rituals that can help you get that great night’s sleep?

 

A lousy night’s sleep really hurts, not just the next day, but sometimes everyday and I’ve been doing some research into how we can help ourselves to fall asleep naturally.

Doing the same thing every morning and evening seems to be the key – for me its losing the caffeine (tea or coffee is a killer for sleep in the evening!)

Next on the list that had to go was chocolate – sugary snacks are really not great! No smoking; no phones, no ipad pre bed and definitely no working on the computer – we need to read a really boring book and let our eyes drift.

 

Routines and rituals help to relax and train your body and mind. You’ve likely experienced this in your daily life: an exercise routine is often easier to stick to when it’s done regularly at the same time.

I love my night time stretches, and meditation when I calm both mind and body – its fifteen minutes that get cut to one minute after a heavy night, but it works!

 

The daily array of tasks you face at work and at home can feel eminently more manageable when you take care of them on a schedule. Healthy habits and rituals make our lives flow with greater ease, productivity, and purpose. Rituals aren’t just helpful to your busy, daily life – they’re also very good for sleep. Research shows routines enhance sleep quality, and can reduce the risk for sleep disorders like insomnia, particularly as we age.

Taking care of day and night

Your sleep life and your waking life in are constant interplay. How you live during the day affects your sleep, and how you sleep at night has a profound influence on your waking day. Preparing for the transitions between these two fundamental phases of daily life can enhance both. A relaxing evening routine helps your nightly sleep and sets you up for a better, more productive day. A smart morning routine gets your day off on the right foot, and has benefits that extend to your night’s rest. Taking time to create rituals that focus on sleep can allow you to fall asleep more easily and sleep more soundly. They also help you wake feeling refreshed and prepared to meet the demands of your day.

Keep it simple

Sleep unfolds in biologically driven cycles throughout the night. The evening and morning routines you create can help strengthen and support these cycles, enhancing both the quality and quantity of your rest. Sleep rituals need not be complicated. In fact, simple is often best when it comes to sleep routines.

Winding down at day’s end

The end of a busy, active day can arrive abruptly, and it’s all too easy to carry the responsibilities, stress, and worry of daily life into the evening hours. Taking daytime worries to bed often leads to difficulty falling asleep, and to restless sleep throughout the night.

Evening rituals for sleep help to create a buffer between hectic days and bedtime. Designating time in the evening to wind down and set aside the cares of the day allows you to transition into sleep more easily, and to sleep better throughout the night. Take a couple of hours before bedtime and devote that time to a gradual preparation for sleep. Fill this time with quiet activities that soothe you and release your focus on the day’s events. Watching television, chatting with a friend on the phone, or relaxing with your partner over a cup of  herbal tea are evening habits that can help you unwind. Taking a shower or soaking in the tub roughly 90 minutes before bedtime is a relaxing, sleep-promoting ritual. Your body naturally lowers its temperature in preparation for sleep, and a warming shower or bath can enhance the effects of this process, stimulating both physical relaxation and feelings of drowsiness.

A quiet hour

The final hour before bed is time for quiet rituals. Dim the lights in your room. Turn off the television, log off the computer, and stow away the phone for the evening. Within this hour, create a regular routine that combines simple preparations for sleep – brushing your teeth, washing your face, climbing into comfortable pajamas – with simple and relaxing activities like reading, or knitting, or listening to soft music. Light stretching and simple meditation or relaxation exercises are other sleep-promoting rituals to try. Once you’ve created a routine that feels easy and relaxing, stick to it. The repetition of these actions night after night creates deeply ingrained habits, and sends signals to your body and mind that it is time for rest.

Start your day right

We don’t always think about morning rituals as important for night-time sleep. But they are. Having a morning routine in place helps you wake at the same time every day. Both consistent bedtimes and consistent wake times are hallmarks of a strong and healthy sleep routine. Morning rituals promote alertness. They also boost your mood and energy level. These positive effects of a regular morning routine don’t just send you into your day feeling better – they also help to strengthen your body’s internal sleep-wake cycle, helping you sleep more soundly at day’s end.

Waking at the same time every day is the first step in creating a sleep-friendly morning routine. Planning your first actions in the morning is also important. Having something purposeful to do upon rising from bed helps you transition out of sleep. Your first activity out of bed can be as simple as brushing your teeth or taking a shower. It can also be something physical: yoga, stretching, or a walk to the end of the driveway to retrieve the morning newspaper. Choose a first activity that you can look forward to, and one you can repeat most every morning. Getting out for even a brief period in morning sunlight can be both mood-boosting and highly beneficial for sleep. Early morning exposure to light stimulates energy and alertness, and strengthens sleep-wake cycles. Including a healthy breakfast – low in sugar and carbohydrates, full of sleep-friendly foods like fruit, dairy, whole grains or eggs – will help you feel more energised during the day and will benefit your sleep at night. Getting out the door to work or school can feel chaotic and routine-less, but with a little planning you can ground your morning in rituals that help you feel relaxed, alert, and prepared for your day.

Take your time

These morning and evening rituals may take some time to put in place. Focus on keeping things simple and sticking to the routines, and before long they will no longer require effort. Instead, they’ll feel like second nature – small acts that promote healthy sleep and well-being during your waking life.

Made in England…why?

img_4758Without wanting to moan, the weather yesterday, when we visited our factory was typical England – it was pouring, the sky was grey and the puddles black.

The motorway was heaving and traffic not moving, and Susie and I joked that perhaps if we made in India or Turkey, the weather would be a lot better!

On a serious note, making in the UK is always a challenge but so worth it.

Seeing the faces of the team busily sewing our collections, and working out ways to make each piece special, made our hearts warm.

Caring not just about selling the clothes but also about how the clothes are made, is fundamental to our ethos and we love the feedback we get from the guys making, the team selling on the shop floor and the customers who come back each season for more.

Producing collections with care, shows, and although making in the UK is a luxury, we believe its definitely worth it!

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Nine tips for a more comfortable flight

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So long haul or short, a comfortable flight can make all the difference to your trip and here are some useful ideas I have found on the internet.

 

The top tip has to be wearing ~Homebody! Far more comfy than those giveaways in first class – you will feel VIP all the way whether you are in economy or club!

Cramped seats, dry air, cabins that go from hot to cold in a matter of minutes — we’re all acquainted with the discomforts of flying. We asked 10 frequent-flying pros for their best tips on how the 99% (upgrading to first class doesn’t count) can keep as comfortable as possible. Yes, we all know we should drink enough water, but will you regret that one glass of wine? Read on to find out what the experts say.

Drink up

Water, that is. This is one tip nearly all of our experts were quick to mention. “Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate,” says Jerry Bishop, a commercial pilot who’s flown mostly trans-Atlantic routes for the past 18 years. “It’s really just common sense, but you don’t realize how much flying takes out of you.” San Diego-based travel writer Cynthia Dial says she tries to drink a quart of water for every four hours she’s in the air. Bobby Laurie, a former flight attendant whose nationally syndicated travel talk show “The Jet Set” debuts next year, says he always travels with his own water bottle, whether purchased in the airport or a refillable one from home (most airports have filtered water fountains), to hold him over until beverage service.

What’s in that little pill?

“A lot of people want to sleep, so they’ll take a sleeping pill,” says Winnie Partridge, a long-haul flight attendant for 43 years, first for Pan Am, now with United. “But then their flight is delayed, and they’re out of it by the time it’s time to board.” Or they can barely rouse themselves when it’s time to de-plane.

Patricia Schultz, author of the best-selling 1,000 Places to See Before You Die, says if you want to take a sleeping aid, you should experiment with it ahead of time; a friend of hers took an Ambien only to have a reaction that kept her wide-awake for 10 hours. “I use something as simple as two NyQuil — it does the trick for me,” Schultz says.

To booze or not to booze

Here’s where the pros part ways … sort of. Both Bishop and Partridge recommend that passengers avoid alcohol altogether if they want to leave the plane feeling rested and refreshed. But common sense is the key. “Personally, I like a glass of wine to help me to sleep,” says Craig Cocchi, a Silicon Valley executive whose work takes him frequently to Asia. And Dial says she’ll occasionally have wine with her onboard meal, but limits it to one glass. One thing everyone agrees on: Overindulging is a no-no.

Take your seats

Since being named a Forbes Top 20 “Social Media Power Influencer” two years in a row, attorney Glen Gilmore has become a sought-after international speaker and thus frequent international traveler. But when you stand 6’5″, an aisle seat is a must, especially on long-haul flights — but not every aisle seat offers the same value. One of the most unanimous tips our pros offered was using SeatGuru http://www.seatguru.com/ to get a map and description of the seats on your flight, so you won’t get stuck at the back of the plane with no room to recline, or next to the heavy-traffic bathroom area.

When Stephen Marino — an East Coast-based VP of sales who has logged more than 2 million miles (for lifetime platinum status) — travels with his girlfriend, he books a window and an aisle seat. “With higher level status, airlines try to keep the seat next to you open. If not, we ask the person in the middle seat if they want a window. They will never turn it down.”

If your ticket was booked as a sale fare, says former flight attendant Laurie, you might not be able to find a seat to reserve online. But sometimes the airlines will release “premium/for-purchase” window and aisle seats 24 hours before departure. And if you still don’t have an assignment just before boarding, the gate agents may upgrade you to an unsold premium economy seat because they’re the only available seats left.

Food matters

“Food is always something to consider in advance,” says Schultz. “I try to keep it healthy, which means it can’t always be a last-minute purchase at the airport. I bring almonds, fruit, protein bars and raisins from home.” Dial says she tries to keep meals light, avoiding foods that are rich or protein-heavy.

Cruikshank says she and her husband carry bags of unsalted nuts. The protein in the nuts staves off hunger and if they’re unsalted, they’re not as likely to make you thirsty. She also carries sugarless chewing gum because it brings saliva to the mouth and reduces that chronic airplane feeling of thirst.

 

10 tasty snacks you can bring on the plane

 

Layers on, layers off

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“As much as I want to dress nicely and look glamorous when traveling, my focus is being comfortable on the plane,” says Vancouver-based travel writer Arnette Arn. “I never wear jeans or anything constricting. I usually will wear leggings or even fashionable sweatpants and dress them up with a nice top or sweater.” Shultz’s No. 1 must-have item is a lightweight pashmina shawl to use when the air conditioner spikes, or to roll up and use as a pillow, but my best bet is a Homebody zippie!

Like most savvy travelers, Cocchi dresses in layers — like a T-shirt under a warmer shirt or jacket. Carol Cruikshank of Palo Alto, Calif., who has traveled worldwide with her husband for decades, says she usually wears three layers of tops: a shell or tank under a long-sleeve tee, and her Homebody so she’ll be comfortable for a range of temperatures. “I stick to dark colors because, well, I’ve been known to spill my food down my front.”

Fashion footnote

“My shoes come off once I’m settled into my seat, so I always pack wooly or thick socks and wear easy-to-slip-on shoes or boots for the flight,” says Arn. Another item to consider are compression socks, which not only keep toes warm but can help feet and legs from swelling on long flights, and can also help thwart deep-vein thrombosis (blood clots). Dial shares a tip for diminutive passengers such as herself: She travels with a lightweight, collapsible footstool that she can put under the seat in front of her that lets her stretch out and elevate her legs.

Diversions

“I’m not much for sleeping on planes unless I’m lucky and flying where I can fully recline, so I like to keep to myself — and keep busy,” says Gilmore. First he likes to get some work done on his laptop or legal pad, then relax by watching movies that he’s downloaded at home. “That way, even the long flights don’t see that long.”

Cruikshank is fond of crossword puzzles when she can’t concentrate on reading, because they’re easy to put down and pick up again. And though it might not be the lightest option, Schutlz likes to bring “a year’s worth of magazines — from People to all the glossy travel mags — and generally a guidebook about the destination I’ll be visiting.” She also brings her own earbuds for watching movies, because they’re better quality than what planes typically provide.

Block it out

When it’s time to get some shut-eye, our experts agree that two of the best things you can carry are some earplugs and an eye mask. Marino favors a pair of high-end, noise-canceling headphones, “so you can tune people that want to talk to you out.” The good ones also help drown out cabin and engine noise. And an eye-mask will keep your neighbor’s reading light from keeping you awake. We suggest a pair that has eyecups, rather than a flat mask, because they’re both more comfortable and for mascara-wearers, they prevent makeup from smearing.

 

Tips for a great night’s sleep…

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After another night of restless sleep, I decided to do some  reading to find out some ideas on how to get that recommended unbroken night of shut -eye!

Research tells us that the very last thing you do before bed, tends to play a significant part on your mood and energy level the next day, as it often determines how well and how much you sleep.

Successful people understand that their success starts and ends with their mental and physical health, which is almost entirely dependent upon their getting enough sleep.

That is why bedtime routines are a key ritual for so many — and why the very last thing most successful people do before bed is read.

Experts agree that reading is the very last thing most successful people do before going to sleep.

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Michael Kerr, an international business speaker and author of “You Can’t Be Serious! Putting Humor to Work,” says he knows numerous business leaders who block off time just before bed for reading, going so far as to schedule it as a “non-negotiable item” on their calendar. “This isn’t necessarily reserved just for business reading or inspirational reading. Many successful people find value in being browsers of information from a variety of sources, believing it helps fuel greater creativity and passion in their lives.”

For example, while some successful people use this time catch up on news stories from the day, skim tech blogs, or browse Reddit and Twitter, others enjoy reading fiction novels and ancient philosophy just before bed.

2. They make a to-do list.

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“Clearing the mind for a good night sleep is critical for a lot of successful people,” Kerr says. “Often they will take this time to write down a list of any unattended items to address the following day, so these thoughts don’t end up invading their head space during the night.”
3. They spend time with family.

 

at_home_family_a_0Michael Woodward, Ph.D., organizational psychologist and author of “The YOU Plan,” says it’s important to make some time to chat with your partner, talk to your kids, or play with your dog.

Laura Vanderkam, author of “What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast,” says this is a common practice among the highly successful. “I realize not everyone can go to bed at the same time as his or her partner, but if you can, it’s a great way to connect and talk about your days.”

4. They reflect on the day.

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Kerr says many successful people take the time just before bed to reflect on, or to write down, three things they are appreciative of that happened that day. “Keeping a ‘gratitude journal’ also reminds people of the progress they made that day in any aspect of their life, which in turn serves as a key way to stay motivated, especially when going through a challenging period.”

Vanderkam adds: “Taking a few moments to think about what went right over the course of the day can put you in a positive, grateful mood.”
5. They meditate.

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Many successful people use the 10 minutes before bed to meditate. Dale Kurow, a New York-based executive coach, says it’s a great way to relax your body and quiet your mind.
6. They plan out sleep.

“Much has been written around the dangers busy people face running chronic sleep deficits, so one habit I know several highly successful people do is to simply make it a priority to get enough sleep — which can be a challenge for workaholics or entrepreneurs,” Kerr says. One way to do that is to go to bed at a consistent time each evening, which is a key habit all sleep experts recommend to help ensure a healthy night’s sleep.

Vanderkam further suggests that you plan out when you’re going to wake up, count back however many hours you need to sleep, and then consider setting an alarm to remind yourself to get ready for bed. “The worst thing you can do is stay up late then hit snooze in the morning,” she says. “Humans have a limited amount of willpower. Why waste that willpower arguing with yourself over when to get up, and sleeping in miserable nine-minute increments?”
7. They unplug and disconnect from work.

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Truly successful people do anything but work right before bed, Kerr says. They don’t obsessively check their email, and they try not to dwell on work-related issues.

Woodward agrees, saying, “The last thing you need is to be lying in bed thinking about an email you just read from that overzealous boss who spends all their waking hours coming up with random requests driven by little more than a momentary impulse.” Give yourself a buffer period between the time you read your last email and the time you go to bed. The idea is to get your head out of work before you lie down to go to sleep.

8. They lie down on a positive note.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of replaying negative situations from the day that you wish you had handled differently. Regardless of how badly the day went, successful people typically manage to avoid that pessimistic spiral of negative self-talk because they know it will only create more stress.

“Remember to take some time to reflect on the positive moments of the day and celebrate the successes, even if they were few and far between,” Woodward says.
9. They picture tomorrow’s success.

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Many successful people take a few minutes before bed to envision a positive outcome unfolding for the projects they’re working on, says Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and author of “Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job.” “For most, this is not a task or exercise; they’re wired with a gift of solid resolution skills that come naturally.”

http://uk.businessinsider.com/what-successful-people-do-right-before-bed-2015-2?op=1/#w-check-out-what-successful-people-do-before-they-leave-work-10

 

to be a child again…

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Today the world is a scary place, the politics; the pollution; the people…not really, but seriously all we want is to feel loved, nurtured and sometimes unstructured  – Homebody is the solution for rest; home chilling and travel

      Time to talk …

 

Our material is key to the success of the Homebody collections and what’s nice  is it’s all sourced locally.

One of the few remaining fabrics still created, knitted and dyed here in the UK, our luxurious stable of fabrics are all made from our exclusive recipe of SLINKY, our home made jersey.

SLINKY has, for the last fourteen years, offered an unrivalled stretch Jersey experience for the sleepwear and lifestyle aficionado and it is why season after season, both men, women and now children return to fill their wardrobes.

Beginning life as a Micro modal fabric, SLINKY’s journey does not end but begin there, as our in house specialists treat SLINKY to the softest makeover imaginable.

Colour fast; wash friendly; non-shrinking and surprisingly sun resistant (over 50+ UPF) Homebody’s eco friendly textiles are seriously hard to beat

To feel it is to believe it and to know it is to wear it…

Spring Summer collections  for men; women and children available at Harrods

 

Susie Menkes and fashion memories…

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Thought for the day…fashion  memories…

It was fascinating going last week to the wonderful Suzi Menkes talk at Christies.

Menkes the  British  fashion editor for the last twenty one  years of the International Herald Tribune, talked about fashion and what it means to her as she launched her sales of vintage clothing

There were some great pieces and, in my opinion, a lot of – not my taste things , but then everyone’s wardrobe is so personal to them. For example if we dress to make the best of our assets,and not to idly follow trends , then of course my wardrobe is not going to necessarily suit the next person,- but that’s a whole other subject.

What I want to talk about today is the subject of clothes and memory

Menkes told her audience of over a hundred fashionistas including my favourite designer of the moment Christopher Kane and numerous fash pack editors including the Telegraph’s  Hilary Alexander, that Pieces  in her wardrobe were loaded with memories- where she bought them what she was doing when she bought them  and what happened when she wore them.

This concept of clothes being more meaningful because of their history, means a lot to me.

Treasures pieces that we love, not just because they make us look good and not because they have their label stuck on the outside for all the world to see, but because of the memories we associate those  clothes with and  is the very essence, for me,of what a woman’s wardrobe should be about – an eclectic mix of fashion.

Those  clever pieces you love and know suit, and of course those crazy eye catching wonders that you bought on some emotive trip years ago that just makes any look complete

My  question today is, how important is that tie between memory and the clothes we choose to wear today, in this era of fast fashion?

Every week we are blasted with a whole new set of trends we have to follow and with the high street offering us the look for ‘cheap as chips’ prices, who doesn’t want to spend a few quid  to look ” current”.

For the young customer today, in the most important consumer age sector of teens to twenties- will their buying habits be infected by this infiltration of free will by those powers that be? And will their buying decisions be conditioned because alluring multiple chain shops currently rule the roost?

Menkes talked about her first Yves Saint Laurent trouser suit, her stunning necklace bought from African tribesmen and it set my mind thinking.

Memories for me are all tied up in clothes not because of their fashion ability but because of who wore them , how they were worn how I got them. that background , perhaps it is an age thing or perhaps it is a worrying fact that for the uninitiated , clothes today are only about quick mass instructed trends that you have to wear if they suit you or not  and for most wallets they will be made in some sweatshop  or dingy factory in eastern Europe or the far East.

Does anyone  really  care who makes it  as long as the rip off American Apparel swish skirt is less than a tenner?

Menkes is right, clothes should mean much more than that… We want the ‘wow’ factor but shouldnt we also want that affection that comes with remembering a shape  or the designer or the place?

Perhaps, and this is the point I’m  getting to!… Perhaps it is the feel of the clothes that remind you of a calm restorative nurturing place.

Memories can be from times past but also can be new ones made by factories where good people take time and attention to make clothes to a standard and at a price that makes sense and offering new memories that allow individuality and freedom of choice to prevail

Homebody sleepwear, HB yoga and boys new A/W 2013/14 collections are  now available in Harrods

http://www.homebodylifestyle.co.uk

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HB Yoga …the calming sea

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There are no words to describe that feeling of the smell, taste and sight of the sea , how ever many times I go there, it calms my bones and doubts lift.

That is the way I felt the first time of  trying yoga

As a typical adult stiffened from years of sitting at a desk with little recall of how wonderful stretching used to feel, when at five years old I tried to bridge my body I entered that class at a critical time.

My health check had gone horribly wrong and the stress that had eaten me up for ten years was swallowing me whole and  an operation was necessary.

I remember being in pieces that day and how the world seemed so different. I couldn’t breath and looked at everyone around me as if it may be the last time. My world was unhinged and not for the first time but at that moment , more than anything, I needed an anchor.

As I entered the room that sunny day I just wanted calm to help me relax and i found it and it was this experience that  gave me the energy surprisingly, to face the days ahead

With help and over time I am learning the importance of each breath and how simple moments of calm can help us to appreciate just how truly amazing our bodies are.

 

Bev xx